Checklists are for groceries, not marriage
When it comes to choosing a spouse, put down the checklist.
I recently noticed an article called "10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry" on my Facebook news feed. Plenty of people I respect shared it, sometimes adding their own comments, like: "Truth" and "Amen!"
So, I bit.
The article described 10 types of men who aren't desirable, like "the playboy" and "the addict." It advises women to run when they notice these characteristics in men.
I disagree with that. Probably because my husband, who is ridiculously perfect for me, fell into at least a few of those categories when I met him.
When I told him about the article, we both laughed and forgot about it a few minutes later. I was shocked at church that Sunday when a pastor mentioned the article, explaining how much he agreed with it. He had even printed out 40 or so copies, and they were available at the welcome center.
I know how tempting it is to use checklists like this because I used to do it. It's not a good idea. I used to say that I would "never" marry someone who did this or that.
I'm so glad I dropped that pretentious attitude and got to know the man behind the "type." I'm so glad he didn't have a checklist when he met me, because I'm sure I wouldn't have measured up in one area or another.
We are all remarkably human. If you are in a relationship (or if you'd like to be) with another human, don't approach it with a checklist —even if it's just in your head. You'll be disappointed.
What do you think of the article, if you clicked the link above and read it?