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Lydia Sheaks
Lydia Sheaks
Lydia Sheaks, education reporter, writes about finding adventure in the everyday, her opinions of current events and trends and occasionally her two cats.



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Reporter Lydia Sheaks writes about education and family issues for the Elkhart Truth.


Checklists are for groceries, not marriage

I thought an article fitting men into 10 "no-no types" was ridiculous, but then I found out people were taking it seriously. 

Posted on Feb. 28, 2014 at 4:51 p.m.

When it comes to choosing a spouse, put down the checklist.

I recently noticed an article called "10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry" on my Facebook news feed. Plenty of people I respect shared it, sometimes adding their own comments, like: "Truth" and "Amen!"

So, I bit. 

The article described 10 types of men who aren't desirable, like "the playboy" and "the addict." It advises women to run when they notice these characteristics in men. 

I disagree with that. Probably because my husband, who is ridiculously perfect for me, fell into at least a few of those categories when I met him.

When I told him about the article, we both laughed and forgot about it a few minutes later. I was shocked at church that Sunday when a pastor mentioned the article, explaining how much he agreed with it. He had even printed out 40 or so copies, and they were available at the welcome center. 

What?!?

I know how tempting it is to use checklists like this because I used to do it. It's not a good idea. I used to say that I would "never" marry someone who did this or that. 

I'm so glad I dropped that pretentious attitude and got to know the man behind the "type." I'm so glad he didn't have a checklist when he met me, because I'm sure I wouldn't have measured up in one area or another. 

We are all remarkably human. If you are in a relationship (or if you'd like to be) with another human, don't approach it with a checklist —even if it's just in your head. You'll be disappointed. 

What do you think of the article, if you clicked the link above and read it?

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