New Year's resolutions are destined to fail. I know it, you know it -- so let's stop kidding ourselves.
I'll use myself as an example. Here are a few things I was tempted to "resolve" to do in the coming year:
- Read more books that important people recommend but that I actually have no real interest in reading.
- Become a person who loves to exercise.
- Stop picking pointless fights with my spouse because I'm bored, or irritated at something that isn't his fault.
Instead of making these goals that may or may not happen, I'd like to propose a new activity for this time of year.
Instead of beating ourselves up about things we do wrong, how about celebrating what we do like about ourselves, and "resolving" to do more of that this year?
Here's how that could look for me:
I'll read more books that I find fascinating, even if they haven't appeared on any VIP reading lists.
I'll keep doing forms of exercise that I really do love (like yoga, Zumba, or a nice walk on a warm summer night) and forget about forcing myself to do the types of exercise I think I "should" be doing (running 100 miles).
I'll spend more time making fun of our cats, which makes both my spouse and I laugh and is great for diffusing tension.
Try it. There's probably a few things that you truly want to do in this new year. Not things you think you should do. Things you want to do.
Figure out what they are and do them. It's a way you can increase your quality of life without feeling that inevitable guilt mid-January when you're eating cupcakes instead of working out.
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